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CleavageFan4U 67M
69374 posts
8/24/2021 5:56 pm

 One of the first ladies I met via this site just let me have it all the first time we met - her LONG history of being a slut with older men, her bi experiences, and even about her crossdressing bi hubby. I guess she figured if I was the type to run I might as well do it right off, before either of us had devoted much time to the situation.

It didn't work. I didn't run, and we're still very close friends, though no longer sexually since she moved away.

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positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
8/24/2021 6:27 pm

 Some men cannot handle it. I would not tell. But focus on him. The past is the past.


iraduu 43M
3598 posts
8/24/2021 8:02 pm

 diga que vc nao fode a muito tempo e sua vagina esta bem justa da mais tesao


CoHiDude20001 51M

8/24/2021 8:30 pm

 First of all, kudos for realizing that this guy may be something special and worthy of you telling him more about your life. I agree with some of the other commenters that if he is a keeper, you should give him a bit of honesty sooner rather than later. Not saying you need to go in depth about the number of sexual partners, the full extent of your sexual appetite, etc., but letting him know that you have been sexually active before seeing him is a first step. You're in control of how much information you share, but if he asks you should share as much as you can. I think it's incumbent on him to realize that you're letting him know this because you think he's special, and that you want him to know that you want to be open and honest with him...it's a great start. However, I also agree with other commenters that if it goes south, or if you see a negative reaction to how much you tell him about your sexual past, or if he backs away or otherwise doesn't agree, you have to be true to yourself! If that means dumping his ass and moving on to teh next one, so be it; if you think you're ready to change your sexual desires and your past to more closely align to his - and he accepts this - that's a winning strategy too. You're in control!

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out!


vipa21 61M
12 posts
8/24/2021 9:39 pm

 if its working ok dont upset the apple cart


dda28 38M
102 posts
8/24/2021 10:59 pm

 I would say to hold off a bit.... i'll DM you in more details


RavenousRaven777 56M
99 posts
8/24/2021 11:34 pm

 Yeah, I’d say keep that info to yourself for now. Or like you said…..”keep your mouth shut”! There used to be an old saying back in the day, for sex and relationship advice, that you don’t hear much anymore. It goes as follows…..(Less History and More Mystery). If you are really into him, he may not want to hear about all the other guys and girls you’ve “been into”! So, let it develop with him slowly, and gently steer the direction of your sexscapades as if he’s the one leading you into debauchery. Have a long happy life with him.


NNJMaverick 48M
8 posts
8/25/2021 12:34 am

 v4veronica, From my experience I think you should not disclose your past.. Your past is just that, your past and should not need to be disclosed. Some people can't handle the truth or any kinky shit you may have done. Now, on another note, if you have a high sexual appetite, make sure that he does as well or that he can keep up. Otherwise, you will get bored and find pleasure elsewhere, and what is the point of that? Just my humble opinion, good luck!


salty_one_65 58M  
67 posts
8/25/2021 5:29 am

 I didn't read in your post what the end goal is...is he another notch in the bed post or someone you see a long term future with?

Assuming that you've already had physical intimacy with him, only you can decide if he rings your bell.

If you really care for him (and are concerned that your "history" may intimidate him), there are certainly ways to suggest to him what you like without revealing a past.

I hope things work out for you!


heartshapedcock2 40M

8/25/2021 6:10 am

 Wow, you are sexy! For what it's worth, I wouldn't break up with you if you disclosed your past with me. I'd enjoy your sexual appetite...


mark1002021 64M
23 posts
8/25/2021 2:00 pm

 You should tell him. Because secrets are always exposed. at some time.
Its better he knows now, rather than later.


exsquid46 64M
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640 posts
8/26/2021 1:11 am

 Disclosing ones sexual past is iffy at best and something I would not do unless asked.

Now sexual preferences, that is a whole different area. That is the one thing I think every person should talk about with their partner. By keeping your sexual preferences to your self, you are setting your self up for an unfulfilling sex life. Especially if the other person is turned off by your preferences. Even trying to introduce them later in the relationship, can cause problems.

I know all about keeping sexual preferences secret and the resentment that builds due to your sexual desires not being met, and being accused of cheating when trying to introduce them to something new.

Now just because your partner has limited sexual experience, that does not mean that they are not wondering about some of the same things that you like.

Just take it slow and test the waters to see how they will react.


EJaxIII 48M  
1 post
8/27/2021 9:48 am

 Watch the movie Chasing Amy for the male perspective. You’re not going backwards without some “born again interest” from you to match him. So, unless you think he can match your needs and interests, it’s best to move on.


SxyLatinJazz_4u 50M
157 posts
8/28/2021 4:46 pm

 Good Luck, sounds like an interesting delima to go thru. Give him some time to absorb it as well, let him watch Chasing Amy too...

If you want him as a keeper, the tough part will be turning down all the other F boys willing to keep it on the down low. But feelings are an interesting thing. You may discover his heart is bigger and his mind more understanding... and he has the guts and confidence to handle such a thing.

maybe for a short while, when the question- 'where did you learn that move' it's from books best of luck.


Youlookcute2Bam 53M
17 posts
8/29/2021 11:05 pm

 Honesty is a great policy but in this case I believe (you may or may not agree) keeping things in the past the past unless it benefits both parties. I share a little bit here or there is all. Women for some reason tell me how many guys they have been with (I have no idea why because I never ask the question) and I just smile nod and say okie dokie. Some women I believe and some I think ...hmmm lol! The numbers are often quite different but how I feel when I am with the woman matters to me not the number of men or promiscuity level in the past.


peninsula_ 53M
184 posts
8/31/2021 7:45 pm

 I would not do a Disney version but I would maybe break things into concepts. Guys probably don't want to hear details from their girl, so. You might get him to talk about his experiences then you know how far you should go, kinda.
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hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
9/1/2021 3:46 am

 Having read other people's comments, I am saddened by how many say words to the effect of "do this, do that: it's the only way." And a few of these sound like they are based too much on previous bad experiences. Don't forget that you and your man are different people from everyone else - the best answer for you may not be what theirs (or mine) would be.

Of course you did ask for advice, and much of what has been written may be helpful, as long as you remember to make your own decisions!

I think one of the things which has been missed here, is that unless you have been presenting this guy with a false image, it is probably already the real you he is into. He may not know your history, but you are unlikely to have struck him as sexually inexperienced, and so far, he seems to like that. I agree that many, though not all men, may not want to hear too much detail about their partner's previous encounters, but of course some men may like to.

I am normally pretty much a one to one guy, but I am also intrigued by the lifestyle, and have had relationships in the past with bi sexual and multi partnered women which, once I got my head round them, I found exciting. If you give your guy time to understand you, he may find your attitude liberating. The fact that he believes in a religion need not mean he is not sexually adventurous, that correlation is a bit of a myth in my opinion. You may need to appreciate and accommodate his views, but he might appreciate yours too.

You probably do need to be yourself to have a really fulfilling relationship, but it may be hard to find out whether he would like that side of you without showing it to him. And it would be defeatist to assume he won't be into it and to end things without giving him the chance to understand you. Maybe the best advice is to go slowly and be gentle!


Youlookcute2Bam 53M
17 posts
9/4/2021 12:12 am

 First off I hit respond and the site never lets me do so directly .I guess I am not so good at this (oh well).

I read your response and I like the approach "tell him some of the stuff I’m into and have done" and kind of go from there. Hopefully your plan will work perfectly. I always tell people I wish there was a friggin playbook for life (intimacy) lol! There is no playbook to life which is more of an art than a science as every person is different. If the conversation becomes a struggle just... smile you are beautiful right?

I admire your bluntness and it is something I lack. So I often let a nice woman slip away.. grrr! Wish you the best


yummyman1979 45M
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9/18/2021 7:03 am

 Glad it worked out for you. Good luck with him. Proves that not everyone had the right idea.


dda28 38M
102 posts
9/21/2021 8:18 am

 So....I guess so far so good?


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