Ok, so I've been on long enough to have tried a few different things and have figured out a little bit more about what I want. We all say we don't want to change each others situations. True. We all say that we are looking for the exciting feeling we had during the beginning of our relationships. True. Many say that they want just one per to be with, but my experience is that this is kind of like highschool/college all over again when looking for that one per we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Some of us become too permissive/players and others become loyal or drop out because they can't stand the idea of becoming "too close" to someone.Then they get scared of messing up the relationship of their own or the per they are dating. so.... I am not looking to change my situation or yours. I am looking for the first time excitement, but that will last more that a couple of romps.Ultimately, I am looking for the woman who is sensual, tantric (or willing to learn), not afraid to develop feelings and learn to keep them separate from home. If you think about the true meaning of an "affair," it involves getting to know one another well, actually caring about the other per on a deeper level, having emotional investment that you might be afraid of, but that you can control. We can all find excitement in a couple of fresh romps in the sheets because everything is new and exciting...but if you don't try to grow that into something a little deeper or there really is not a deeper intellectual/emotional connection, you just get bored and move on and then you do become that per who is too permissive/player as a married adult. I know we all want to stay safe/clean, but it can get scary when people start lying about how many people they have really met.

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